The date

So I had a meetup/date with Ms. Y. It went really well, I think. She was very pretty for sure, but I wasn't nervous at all. I owned the date like I own interviews. I think she was more nervous than me at first for some reason haha. Maybe it was because I was in my favourite Calvin Klein blue dress shirt. I did look pretty spiffy, if I must say so myself. I gotta. No amount of money can buy another first impression, so I gotta do it right the first time. I also had two shots of YSL La Nuit de l'Homme fragrance as well. Two shots is pretty conservative, because the general consensus is 3-4 shots would be good, but I didn't want to make the smell obvious. I wanted to have it so that she smells it infrequently. I think the infrequent reminders of my fragrance would work better than a constant reminder by smelling it all the time, and her brain will automatically tune out the smell after a while.

Ate sushi at Sushi Oyama on Kingsway. Ms. Y was one of those girls who didn't eat much. Took at all the rice from her sushi lol. I joked that she could have made another roll with all that rice. We had a good talk about school and Chinese names and other subject matter that escapes me. I footed the bill of $50, and then we went to some cafe near Royal Oak. There, she paid for tea and cake, and we also chatted for a while until the cafe closed. I got the impression that she wasn't a typical pretty girl. Focused on getting into shape, doesn't mind sweating to get the killer abs. Her view of marriage is akin to a life sentence, where one loses one's freedom. That view is fundamentally different than mine, where I see a marriage can enhance myself. Napoleon Hill explains it nicely in Chapter 11 of his book, Think and Grow Rich.

She seems very independent, with a "please myself before pleasing others" attitude, which I find is fine. I mean, ultimately, it's your own life, not someone else's, so you should come first before everyone else. Of course, there are going to be exceptions, like when one raises a family, one would place the family's needs above their own. But one can also argue that the reason why one would make sacrifices for the good of the family is because one is trying to fulfill one's desire to have a great family.

Anyway, so the cafe closed up. We walked out, and she was going to walk away, but I went in for the hug. I was like, "Wait a minute, don't people usually hug at this stage of the night?" And she replied with a laugh ,"Yeah, I guess so." Then I went in for the hug while stating it was standard protocol lol. I was lightening up the mood to make it not awkward, which it wasn't. It was a solid 2 second hug, and the only thing going through my mind at the time was, "Yessss, smell my expensive-ass fragrance that I sprayed on. Smell all 12 cents worth of fragrance on me." I'm pretty sure she got a good whiff. Hope she liked it lol.

Would I date her again? I don't know. She had her fob moments. Hard for me to understand her sometimes. She also made it clear she's not really actively seeking a partner, and she'll let whatever comes, come. Of course, I introduced her the idea that one should look for nothing less than an extraordinary partner, and just like having any other goal, the goal to get an awesome partner needs work and effort to obtain. Hopefully she'll think about it. If I don't factor in how she feels about dating, and just strictly on how I feel about her, I think I would date her again. She seemed intelligent, independent, mature, nice, and oh yeah, did I mention pretty yet?

However, once I factor in her thoughts and feelings on dating, boyfriends, and marriage, I think it would be much harder for me to snatch her up from the market, so to speak. Plus, I only have 3 months left before I jet to Korea. Although it would probably be a waste of time for me to date her for the sake of getting her as a partner, I think she'll make a good friend, so I'll continue hanging out with her for friend purposes.