Careers. Why you should not have them.

What is a career? It's a series of jobs where you can advance up and take more responsibilities and get pay raises to reflect the increase in responsibility. You advance up by accumulating experience.

What's a job? It's just a duty you perform to get money. There is no chance for you to move onto a higher paying position.

This is what I define a "job" and a "career". So out of these two descriptions, obviously the career is the better choice, right? Yes, if I had to choose between the two, I'd choose to get a career over a job.

In fact, many people pursue a stable career as the end game plan for their life. I think this is the wrong move. At the end of the day, most people don't have a career cuz they like it. They have a career because it gives them money in order to pay their expenditures and to allow them to live a life they want to live. The career gives people more freedom to do the things they want.

So in essence, a career is where a person sacrifices about 25% of their life (40 hours a week of work per 168 hour week) in order to make money so they can have a happier time during the rest of their life, which is about 43% (168 hours - 40 hours work - 56 hours sleep). Now, some people might argue that some people like what they do at work. They find meaning in their jobs. Good for them. I'm sure some people have a great sense of purpose at their job. But for the vast majority of people, if you tell them they've won $10 million from the lottery, they'll quit their job in a heartbeat and live the life they want, free from the burden of having to make the money.

A career/job, in my eyes, is a method to ensure that you provide services to the community, and in return, you get to take services from the community (in the form of money). That's fair. I'm rambling now.

What I wanted to say was aim to not work and still be able to live the life you want. Aim for passive income. That should be the ultimate goal in life. But you might think it's not fair. You are not contributing to society, but you still take resources form society. It's all philosophical at that point, because you can argue the value you added to the world is so great that you continue to reap the benefits of your value over a very long period of time.

But just think about it like this. You've got a newborn baby. Would you rather go work 40 hours a week to provide resources to raise that kid up right, and to be only able to see him, realistically speaking, for an hour or two a day during weekdays (cuz you know, you gotta eat n shower and take care of yourself too, not to mention you gotta take care of your significant other). Or, would you rather just have the money, and have the entire day with your newborn and partner? 

The choice is clear here, at least for me anyway. And of course you won't want to spend 24/7 with the kid, so you could argue you could work during that time. But I'd then argue that there's an opportunity cost for working. The time you put into working, you could put into other stuff more valuable for yourself and your family. You could read up books on how to become a better parent, or a better husband or wife. You could exercise to make sure you live longer. You could take your husband or wife out for a date. Lot's of stuff you could do that would be better than working.

I dunno, maybe I'm selfish in that I think about my family first before society. But isn't that how we're programmed subconsciously? We want to be able to provide for our families, first and foremost right?

I'm rambling again now. TL;DR = Don't get a job. Get passive income. For the sake of yourself, your friends, and your family. 

Random thoughts on Shrimp and Life

I was at my parent's restaurant today, and I was deveining shrimp at one point. To devein a shrimp is not actually removing the vein, but it's the intestines of the shrimp that you're actually removing, and the black stuff in it is sand/dirt/algae. Whether one needs to devein shrimp or not in the first place is a whole other topic for another time.

As I was deveining, I noticed that some shrimps had a crap load of crap in their intestines, and the intestines would be bloated and black. Other shrimps had nothing in their intestines, and I could barely see the intestines because it was clear, with bits of black sporadically along the intestine. I started to notice a trend where the bigger shrimps usually had more stuff in their intestines compared to the smaller shrimp. This got me thinking, "Why?" Why would some shrimp get so big and have so much to eat, while other shrimps stay puny and barely have anything to eat?

Maybe because it's just set up that way. Maybe since some of the shrimp got a tiny head start, that head start allowed them to become slightly better in finding food than other shrimps, and that slight edge compounding over time led to the eventual gargantuan size of some of these mofos compared to its kin. And the same goes for the weaker punier shrimps. Since they were a little crappier in terms of finding food in the beginning of their life, they slowly lagged behind their kin, and eventually grew up to be the pitiful sorry little puny shrimps they are now.

This situation seems familiar. Life is like this in general I think. Let's say I'm a guy who came from a wealthy family. In my disposal I'd already have $100k to invest, and I'm 23. Let's say return on investment was 5% a year. In 50 years I'd have $1.1 mil. If I had the same returns but if I started out with $20k, like what I actually have in the bank right now, I'd only have $218k in 50 years. That's a 5 times difference. But you know what? If I was the rich dude with the $100k starting, I'd have enough money for a nice down payment on a house by year... well, by year 1, actually, because $100k is enough to nab you a $500k home, which you can then rent out the bottom, or the entire thing if you are so inclined. Doing so would put your return on investment way past 5% a year. And if the dude can start off with... let's say 10% a year on investments with a $100k initial sum vs my 5% a year with a $20k initial sum, can you see why the rich get richer, while the poor get poorer? ($10.6 mil vs $218k... which is like 50 times difference...)

Wow, what is this self pitying crap. Is it self pitying? No, I don't think so. I don't pity myself. I'm just angry that I am denied the opportunity that others have but squander. I'm talking about all those rich Chinese immigrant fuckers who smoke all day and drive their Audi R8s and Nissan GTRs and hang around E-Spot all day long with their pretty import model quality girlfriend gold diggers. They could become even richer than their parents, yet they waste their time and life with stupid shit. They don't deserve the wealth on hand.

#Bitter? Yes, #Bitter. I'm bitter. I'm cynical. But at least I have drive and will. Sometimes I get so frustrated I want to cry. Srsly.

On another note, I'm gonna try and ask this other girl out, but not for the same purpose as the one for Ms. Zun. For her, the purpose for dating her was to basically go big game hunting, and nab this amazing girl who I can picture, from the initial impressions at least, starting a family with. I know it's weird to say that about someone whom I only went out twice with, but you guys don't know how it feels to have an insane checklist that got checked off for practically everything. That shit doesn't happen.

Anyway, enough about the past. This new girl is a friend of a friend, and is part of the group I hang out with. She's 2 years older, but she's cute, and she's azn, so she looks way younger than she actually is. She's shy, which I like. She's a teacher that's currently working in a private school. From this description alone, friends of this group will def know who I'm talking about. I also gave them this blog's URL for some purpose that escapes me now. I'm banking on the fact that they would be bored of the shrimp talk and wouldn't read this far. I'm a gambling man.

So yeah, this girl. She's not as driven as I like people to be, and she drinks. That alone pretty much disqualifies her as a potential bearer of my children, but I got to thinking, dating isn't necessarily just to find the future bearer of my children right? Maybe it can also just be for me to be happy for now? I don't know. Am I talking like a loser? I feel like if I'm focused on my happiness now, I'd forgo future success, and I'd ultimately end up being a loser. Is there something wrong with me for thinking like this? Do I have to see a shrink? Nah.

So back to this girl again (I keep on diverging from the main topic, it's like I have ADD). I'll ask her out for a pre-date. It wouldn't even be a date. It'll just be a chance for us to get to know each other better. I was gonna ask tmrw irl, but her lil cousin is coming, and I don't want to make her day stressful by imposing that question on her... so I'll ask her... later.

I also like the thrill of the hunt, so that's a reason why I'm asking her out.

Should I date again?

It's a funny feeling, not having someone to chase after anymore. I don't like it. When I had Ms. Zun in my crosshairs, my search was actually over, and I had moved on to taking down the prey. But now she's out of the picture for now, and I have to go back to searching again, which is the worst part. It's terribly hard to find great girls, and I always feel the pressure of trying to find one before I'm like 30 and practically ready to retire. It literally took me a solid 1.5-2 years of online dating to find this Ms. Zun. I don't like that track record at all. Very very worrisome.

I remember when I was with my ex, and we were like 1 year into our relationship, I felt at peace and satisfied. I felt like a whole person. It's because I didn't have to worry about trying to look for "The One", because I was already with my ex. I had doubts sometimes whether she was the one or not, but most of the time I was happy with her. She was someone I could be close with emotionally and physically. I guess I miss that aspect, having someone whom I get to share everything with, someone whom I can just love with all my heart without it being overwhelming or overbearing for the other person.

Now I don't have anybody like that in my life. But it's a trade-off. When I was with my ex, she was my everything, and I was pretty much her everything. That meant that I didn't really have much of a social life outside of spending time with my ex. Now I have a lot more friends I hang out with, and I've become closer with my friends, which is awesome. But I don't have anyone where I can slap her on the ass and call her beautiful lol.

Can I live my life without someone whom I can be super close to and whom I can pour my heart out to? Probably, because I'm living right now. Would I feel complete? I don't feel complete right now. I know what it's like to have an intimate relationship and I miss that feeling. I think if I were to find someone else, I'd feel whole again. This feeling of wholeness... I don't think it's necessary for me to succeed in life and make a lot of money... but it would sure make me happier and more peaceful, and that's also a measure of success in life as well, besides money.

Is the fact that I miss having an intimate relationship enough reason for me to date just anyone decent? I am not sure... let's pro and con this out.

Pros for dating a girl who's decent, but not necessarily fully wifey material:
-someone to share thoughts and feelings with
-someone to get physically intimate with
-someone for me to love and care for

Cons for dating the above girl:
-will break up eventually due to the fact that I wouldn't want to marry them
-will get emotionally destroyed due to breakup
-all resources, like time and money, spent on relationship will be for naught, shitty return on investment, plus you gotta factor in the opportunity cost as well of the resources spent

So I guess I'd be sacrificing present money and time for present physical and emotional gratification. The alternative would be for me not to date, so I'd save money, and the time I could spend somewhere else more productive, but I wouldn't experience that intimacy again.

Overall, I don't know. What a great conclusion haha.

How do I define Happiness?

To me, happiness is having a great family, a great wife, and watching my kids prosper. My wife will be a great person who makes me want to strive and achieve greatness. She'll also be a good mother. My kids will be smart and good. Money will not be an issue for my family. What would be issues would be which private school is the best to send the kids, and when can my wife and I have some time off from the kids to have some rekindling time, cuz that shit's important. Trust me, I know this for a fact.

I guess I'll be happiest if I find someone else who shares the same definition of happiness as me, and wants to strive for a loving family as well. I hope she shares that definition. I'll ask her on the next date.

Confidence. Where does it come from?

From reading some of my posts, you may have come to the conclusion that I am a confident individual. And yes, I am a confident individual. Now, convolutionx, where did you get your confidence from, and is it warranted? Do you even have a right to be confident? Well, I'll answer that question. I believe I am confident for several reasons.

I think one big reason is because I am aware of my competency in life in general, and it's pretty high. More often than not, when I put my head down and just work, I achieve pretty great results. A big part of my confidence booster was doing the Southwestern Internship. I did this during my first 2 summers of my university life. The premise of the internship is to do door to door sales of educational books, take their orders, order the books wholesale from the company, and then deliver it to your customers. For my first summer, I made a little over $10k in one summer.

But I worked long hours during both summers though. 13.5 hour days, 6 days a week for 14 weeks was how long I worked. I did pretty well, even though I had no sales experience, so that gave me confidence that if I survived doing that, I can do anything in life well if I set my mind to it. In case you're wondering how I did for my second summer, I didn't do nearly as well, and I made an embarrassing amount. But, that second summer I can argue I learned more about myself than my first summer. I learned how to persevere in the face of failure. I learned I had what it takes to wake up after 4 days of no sales, and go out there in the rain, and knock on that first door with a big smile on my face. I learned that I didn't make excuses, and I didn't pussy out of doing the program and just go home. I learned that I can keep commitments. I committed to finish the summer, and that's exactly what I did. So that's just my Southwestern experience. I tried jewellery sales at Reid Jewellery in Metrotown with 0 gem experience, and I did pretty well. I did a co-op gig as a lab tech with no prior experience, and I ended up being a rockstar, after a period of failure though. I guess the only blemish to my achievements would be my academic record. I don't exactly have jaw dropping marks, but this last year, I managed to turn things around. Averaging 1 standard deviation about the averages for most of my classes.

Another small thing that people overlook is whenever you make a promise, you keep your word and you do it. If you're use to the fact that whatever you say is transmuted into action and reality, you'll have more confidence in your words.

A superficial reason why I'm confident is that I have a pretty nice body. I know, it's superficial, but it still makes me feel confident. Why does it give me confidence? I'm not too sure. I mean, no one is gonna see it anyway. Maybe it's because I know I have something that other people strive to get but don't have. It's like I have pocket aces up my sleeve, and I'm the only one who knows that. Here's some pics, and no, I don't even post this crap on my facebook or anywhere else. You guys have the exclusives to pics of my bod lololol. You should feel honored, all you random-ass guests who somehow arrived on this page from who knows where.

But I think the biggest reason why I am confident is because when it comes down to it, I don't care about what most people think, especially strangers. I mean, do those strangers know me as a person? Nope. Therefore, with incomplete information, their drawn up conclusions about who I am as a person will be incomplete as well and not valid. Plus, my self worth is not based on what other people think of me. It's based on what I think about myself, and I love myself. This frees me to do whatever I want with no worry, and a lack of worry about how others perceive me, in a sense, is confidence. I guess real confidence is knowing the fact that whatever you do, you know people will have a good perception of you. Maybe my confidence is less legit version, but I'm slowly getting there, to the legit version of confidence.

So just to summarize:
1. Be competent
2. Do what you say you're gonna do.
3. Have a body you can be proud of.
4. Give no shits about what others think about you. Remember, there is only 1 person who determines your self worth, and that person is you.

Should you do it? How I kill procrastination.

Have you ever had those moments when in your head, you know you need to get stuff done, but you just can't bring yourself to get started and to actually go do it? I've had those moments too. I recently found out a good way to help myself rationalize into action. Also, having something important in your life will also help motivate you to stop procrastinating.

I ask myself this one question, "If I were on my death bed, would I think back to this time, regret not doing whatever I'm pondering to do? Or, alternately, would I regret doing something, whatever it is I'm pondering not doing?"

IE: It's slightly misting outside. I promised to run (Well, lol, not really. I told Ms. Zun I'd run tmrw morning, so I guess it's sort of like a promise to her), but the weather isn't ideal, and it's cold, and I'm tired. Do I run? I ask myself, if I'm on my deathbed, I'd probably regret being a lil bitch and not run just because of some gentle misting. So, I run. Simple as that.

Also, you probably could guess what the second way for my motivation is. It's to have someone special in your life you can dedicate your effort to. For me, even though Ms. Zun doesn't know it yet, I'm going to dedicate to improving myself so she can get the best boyfriend possible, objectively speaking. That's right, I'm going to be objectively better, not subjectively, which is a tall task indeed, but if I set my mind to it, it shouldn't be impossible. So, have someone you love, or secretly like. Work hard for that person. Make it so that your worth while for them. Transmute your passion into productive energy.

I'll leave you with Chapter 11 of Think and Grow Rich. Napoleon Hill talks about how the most successful people had loved ones they dedicated their efforts to. Of course that's an oversimplification, and really, you guys should give it a read to get a better understanding. A memorable analogy was that a bull had lots of fight and energy, but if you castrated the bull, you essentially took the "maleness" from the bull, and you took away its essence to fight and strive. It becomes a docile as a bull.



I don't want to live a docile life. I want to strive and struggle to squeeze out every ounce that this life has to offer. Therefore, I'm not gonna castrate myself anytime soon, and I am thankful I have an avenue of which to dedicate my efforts for, which is, my dear Ms. Zun.

On motivation. What motivates me?

Let's start off with a quote from Harvey Specter:


Motivation is a very personal thing. There is no absolute one thing that is guaranteed to motivate everyone. However, there are some main areas in which many people are motivated by, and I think the things that motivate me are pretty ordinary, and should be motivation for many others as well.

A recent revelation of mine is that you don't exactly know when you'll meet your future partner. You could bump into her in a grocery store tomorrow, or she could message you after coming back on a dating website after a 2 year hiatus. Maybe you'll bump into her in a Starbucks in a Chapters bookstore. And when you do bump into her, you only have one chance to make the best impression you can. After that moment passes, if you weren't ready, you'll blow your only shot, and you'll never be with whom you were initially meant to be. If you don't immediately make her interested in you as a potential candidate, then sure, you could work your way into being friends with her, but then you'll just have your work cut out for you.

Let's take a pause. What do I mean by "not being ready"? Your future partner obviously doesn't want to date a fuck up, and wants to date someone successful and have their shit together. Your future partner wants to date you when you are at your best, and if you are not at your best, then you aren't ready for your future partner. You may be able to date girls when you're at your best, but secretly deep down, you know that special girl you always longed for is the one who's pretty, and smart, and kind, and gentle. You're gonna have to be on top of your game when you meet her to even get a chance to date her.

So for me, I am motivated to be at my best, 24/7 preferably, because I will never know if out of the blue, I'll meet The One. When I meet her, I need to be in top physical shape, my mind has to be at its sharpest, and I would have to be working in a stable and at least decently paying job. I just really hope that if I meet her prematurely before I'm ready, I'll still be able to make it work; I'll still be able to be with her, and have her wait for me to get my shit together. For the mean time, I hope my efforts and dedication to make something of myself down the road will be enough to temporarily attract The One long enough for me to complete my journey, or at least to be well on the way in my journey to success.

Another motivation for me to be at my best, and to want the best, is the fact that I have one life. We all got one shot in life to make the best of what we've got. We can't restart if we mess up. So at every moment of your life, you have to always make the best decisions. And since you only have one life, then might as well go big, right? You won't have another life to live it big. You won't have another life to experience what this world has to offer. So since you're here, you really should experience as much as you can before you die. That's why I want everything. I want to experience everything this world has to offer before I die, and that takes resources, mainly money, so it's a big motivation for me to make money.

On a related note, I also want my kids and my wife to have the best experience that life has to offer, so another motivation for me to make mad money is for my future family. I want my kids to have a start in life I never had. I don't want them to grow up in an intercity area, going to an intercity high school. I want them to receive the best education this planet has to offer. I also want my wife to live a life of comfort. I am hesitant to say a life of luxury, because I don't believe in luxury. I define luxury as having in your possession expensive material goods, like $14,000 hand bags and $200k cars. One doesn't need luxury to be happy, and certainly my girl wouldn't be one of those types of girls who chase after that crap. But I would still like to treat her out to experiences. IE: Dining at the best restaurants, going to exotic places, etc.

Lastly, my parents are my final motivation. I have mentioned this in my other posts, but my parents work 14 hour days in their restaurant, and it's been 8 years of them doing so. They're dying physically for my sister and my sake, putting us through school and life in general. Their efforts must be repaid. I want to provide them with a worry free retirement. It's the least I can do after their sacrifice. Again, it would require me to make money.

I have the lives of my parents, my wife, and my kids on my shoulders. If I fail, I'll be failing everyone, so failing is not an option. I have a burning desire to win, and I can't live a life of mediocrity if I want to win at life. Sometimes I'll have days where I don't feel like doing shit. I just wanna sit back and be lazy. But I think about all the stuff I want, and my want powers me. Lately, it's thoughts of Ms. Zun that powers me through life. I really need to be at my A game in order to date someone like her, and I'm afraid while I can put on the bravado of having an A game life, I don't have an A game life. I have an A game attitude, and that's all I have. And girls may date guys with an A game attitude, but if that A game attitude doesn't translate to an A game life, then it's harder to keep them with you. And if you truly loved her, would you want her to be with you, living in a B game or C game life, when there are other guys who can provide her with an A game life, and who cares about her just as much as you? I'd be like, "Yo, that guy's richer, he can provide you with more comforts. He is also as thoughtful and loving as me. You should be with that guy instead of me, because although I love you, and I personally want to be with you, it is because I love you that I want you to have the best life possible. I believe the best life possible for you is not with me, but with that guy instead."

I don't want to have to say that line though. I want to be able to say, "Yo, I love you as much as that other guy. I'm also just as thoughtful. I also am living an A game life, while he's only living a C game life. I've got my shit in order, and I'm prepared to care for you way better than the other guy."

When to spend money. When not to spend money.

When not to spend money:

The time when I avoid spending money is when I spend it on myself for myself with no clear benefit. I'm a simple guy and I don't need much, and I am quite fine not bothering to spend money to have a good meal for myself, or to buy a PS4 for myself so I can play Final Fantasy XV, or buy a 27" 4k computer monitor for the added resolution and desktop real estate area. In other words, I don't need leisure, and I don't want to spend money on leisure.

If I didn't have to worry about impressing anyone, I'd probably not even bother with brand name clothes and accessories.

When to spend money:

When I was younger, my mom would always say it was a waste of money when our family went out to eat. And for a time, I believed in the same thing. But then I had an epiphany. What's the purpose of saving up money, when at the end of everything, you don't spend much of it before you die? What's the point of having a shit tonne of cash in the bank, but not having experienced what life has to offer?

I'm seeing my parents die slowly each day before my eyes. They need to enjoy life. We went to eat at Cattle Cafe today. The bill was $45 after tips, and between the four of us (my sister too), it wasn't bad at all. What we get out of the $45 was a meal, but more importantly, we get family time. Since my parents are always in the restaurant, they are never home, and we rarely spend quality time. So to me, the value of the quality time we spent greatly exceeds $45, and thus in my eyes, it's worth it.

My dad wants to go to France for a week and a half this summer. My mom thinks it's a waste of money, and the old me would think so too, but then now I realize, my dad can still walk, and has relatively low health problems. If he doesn't go now, when will he be able to go? He's only going to deteriorate further, and maybe one day in the future, he might not be able to go. I told my mom she should go too, but she said her heel spur makes it too painful for her to walk around a lot, which is what tourists do. So sadly, for my mother, it's already too late for her to go to France. I'll try and convince her again to go though. But as for my dad, I'm all for him going to France. Spend the money he worked hard for, and enjoy life while he still can.

For health reasons, I'd spend money. It's an investment, in my eyes. I'll spend money on exercise equipment, like shorts, badminton racquets (though I still have to buy a new one; my old one = 9 years old), court shoes, gym drop in fees, swimming trunks, etc etc. The return I'll get is a health body, and I'll get to live longer. Definitely worth the money.

Social reasons, I'd spend money. The truth is, to build and maintain your social network, money is involved to participate in activities and events that cause social bonding. In other words, this is the fun stuff that people do regularly for leisure. Since I don't need leisure (yet), I wouldn't do these things myself, but I'd do it if my friends were doing it. This includes going out to eat, watching movies, going to E-Spot in Richmond, etc.

For relationship reasons, I'll spend all the money in the world. I will value my eventual wonderful partner higher than anything else. So, that means I'll do whatever it takes to make her happy, and that often means spending whatever it takes as well. One cannot divorce entirely activities from money. A part of this budget would be to improve my self image, not for my own sake, but for the sake of my partner. Before I find such a person, I would need to attract them first, and I'll spend a fair chunk to stock my armory with arsenal I can use to hunt down the truly special girls. This includes all the standard gear like clothing, jackets, and shoes. Also includes accessories like a ring and a watch. I even bought a $98 bottle of YSL La Nuit de l'Homme fragrance, just to make sure I have everything covered. I mean, if you can use aroma to your advantage when making an impression on a lady, then why not use it right? I'm no Taeyang or Godfrey Gao, I need all the help I can get. Btw, I love how La Nuit smells. I want to use it as a air freshener and just spray my entire room with it.

                                                    Godfrey Gao. Damn he's hot.

Since I have a limited amount of money, I need to make sure to allocate it the best I can, so I often think about what is worth my money, and what isn't.

PS: I just finished watching the trailer for Final Fantasy VX. And all I gotta say is ERHMAGERD. I might have to retract my statement about not getting a PS4 lolololol.

Dating down the wealth ladder

Dating down the wealth ladder is a much more difficult issue for guys vs girls, but the same problem that faces rich guys also faces rich girls, to a lesser extent.

The major problem for dating when there is a significant amount of wealth involved is that the wealth introduces a new motive for pursuers of the rich to date the rich, and it's obviously dating/marrying for the money. A rich person, if they were smart, would always have that worry at the back of their minds: "Is this person dating me because they love me, or because they love my money?" It makes choosing potential mates very tricky, because sometimes people are very hard to read, and you may not find out their true motives until it's too late.

I've heard stories of people undergoing brutal, life shattering divorces. It's usually the wife who married into the rich husband's family. The wife marries the guy, has a kid or two, and divorces the guy a couple of years later, and takes half his fortune. The worst part, is that for some of these cases, the woman also takes away the kids as well. A prime example would be what happened to Jordan Belfort in Wolf on Wallstreet. I can't remember if Jordan had half his fortune ripped away from him, but he certainly lost custody of his kid. Maybe his cocaine addiction had something to do with the loss of custody, but others may lose custody of their kids regardless if they had done anything wrong to being with. It could simply be a matter of the father working 14 hours a day, providing for the family, only to have the judge rule the father unfit to care for the children do to his excessive work hours, which of course, the father puts in for the sake of the family. I had a coworker tell me of his friend, who was uber rich in Vietnam. Owned 3 houses, and I think he was a doctor, or some other respectable profession. This person not only had a bad divorce once, but twice. In the end, he was forced to live in a garage, and work as a mechanic. I don't know why he couldn't keep his old job though. Maybe the story was embellished, but it still serves to make a point on how rich people have to be careful of the gold diggers.

For us not so wealthy folks, we don't have as much worry as the rich. I mean, even if it goes to divorce and everything gets split, what's the worst that can happen? I lose my $400k house? It sucks, for sure, but it won't exactly end you, like losing a couple of million dollars. Since gold diggers set their sights on people of far greater wealth than you or I, we should be safe from most of the cutthroat gold diggers.

So all this was geared towards the rich guy. The rich girl... I don't think I have enough experience to talk about them. They are a mysterious breed to me. I would think as a guy, we'd be too proud to be gold diggers and marry for the money. But then again, there is an entire spectrum of doucheness in their world, and I don't doubt there are guys just itching to divorce their rich wives for the money. Heck, there are probably guys out there who married 80+ year old women for the money, and just waiting for them to die.

All in all, I'm sort of glad that most of my relationships are going to be lateral across the wealth ladder, or up. It's pretty hard to date down the ladder when you're already near the bottom of the rung. Also, the thing with being at the bottom of the rung is, there is nowhere to go but up.

Dating up the wealth ladder as a guy.

You see a girl you want to date, and she comes from a higher socioeconomic background than you. What to do?
Well, first thing is first, she is not going to be impressed with whatever you're going to buy for her. She has money, she can buy whatever the heck she wants. I think girls like that want stuff money can't buy, so you have to provide something for her that money can't buy, namely, a super boyfriend. No matter how much money she has, she can not go out and instantly purchase a boyfriend of superior quality. How her money serves her is to allow her to prospect from the pool of guys equal or greater than her socioeconomic status, aka other rich guys.

There are three types of rich guys. Guys who got rich on their own, and guys who are rich because their parents are rich, and do nothing to grow that existing wealth, and finally, guys who multiplied their parents fortune, surpassing the wealth accumulated by the parents. We can disregard the 2nd type of guy, because they are nothing but average Joes who were lucky enough to be born into a rich family. Types 1 and 3 are the main competition for the guy of lower socioeconomic status.

So, these guys are rich, and they have what it takes to stay rich. That reflects on their work ethic and intelligence. These guys are smart, and are willing to sweat. So work ethics wise, they're gold. What wealth can't buy for them is a great personality, and a caring heart. Not to say that there aren't rich guys out there who are also caring and are people magnets. I'm just saying that there are some rich folks who aren't such great people to be around with, one way or another.

So what does this little aside about rich guys mean for the not so rich guys? It means we can't compete with money, we can't compete with work ethic, and thus the only avenue for us to compete with them is through our inner beauty. We have to win the richer girls with our boundless love and care, and we also have to have great chemistry with the girls too. Money can't buy chemistry.

Where does this leave me? Well, I would have to work on being more thoughtful I guess. Now, I always have the girl's best interest at heart. What I consider myself lacking would be... "micromanagement" of care and thoughtfulness? Like, obviously for the big stuff it's easy. She got hurt in a car accident. Drop your shit, buy some flowers and gifts, spend time with her, comfort her, offer her silent confidence and assurance that everything is fine. She'll be calmer when she sees your inner strength and calmness.

What's not so easy is dealing with all the small daily idiosyncrasies of the partner. It's hard to notice the micro fluctuations of emotions and feelings that goes on throughout the day, and sometimes you want to nip problems in the bud before they develop into something bigger, but for me, sometimes it can be hard to notice the very VERY initial stages of a problem. So I guess what I need to work on is to notice the small details so I can preempt her needs and wishes, and take "caring" to the next level.

So that's what I myself have to work on to get the richer girls. I'm going to provide them with a boyfriend product that is rare in the market. For you guys, you'll have to work on your own issues. It all comes down to making the decision to become the better man, and to improve yourself daily. We poorer guys are inherently at a disadvantage due to the fact that we can't match the girl in terms of money, so we have to step up our game for everything else to make up for the fact that, no, we unfortunately can't join them on their 4 month Euro-trip with friends because of the $16k bill at the end of the trip, or no, we unfortunately can't dine at a 2 star Michelin rated restaurant every single weekend.